Low Self Esteem- Jealousy and Anxiety
Low self esteem can cost anyone just about everything. It can drag down any person’s career, happiness, relationships- generally, it drags a person’s life down. Like in a relationship, someone with low self esteem is more likely to be insecure and usually get’s jealous every time. We all know jealousy has broken many relationships in centuries. As for the person’s whole being, jealousy has brought them to a incredible height of negativity.
Jealousy doesn’t just ruins the person’s relationship with others but does even worse. It ruins the person’s relationship to himself and it develops anxiety and depression. Low self esteem does get you far enough when it comes to all negativity in life. Here is are further information that will help you understand jealousy and the anxiety that goes with it.
Low Self Esteem- Jealousy and Anxiety
Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of identifiable emotions such as anger, sadness, resentment and disgust. It is not to be confused with envy.
The overlapping use of jealousy and envy occurs because people can experience both at the same time. A person may envy the characteristics or possessions of someone who also happens to be a rival for attention. A jealous person may envy the affection that his or her partner gives to a rival.
Philosopher John Rawls distinguishes between jealousies and envy on the ground that jealousy involves the wish to keep what one has while envy is the wish to get what one does not have. The experience of envy involves feelings of inferiority, longing, resentment of circumstances and ill will toward the envied person. This is often accompanied by guilt about these feelings, motivation to improve, desire to possess the attractive rival’s qualities and subsequent disapproval of feelings.
Interestingly, jealousy has been observed in infants 5 months and older who were experiencing and showing jealousies. “It has always been thought that until the second year of life babies could not experience jealousy which implies a sense of others rather than self,” said Dr. Riccardo Draghi-Lorenz, the psychologist who conducted the study on jealousy at Portsmouth University.
We start young and it continues throughout our lives. Jealousy has been observed more often in those with low self-esteem and can result in aggressive reactions. One study suggested that developing intimate friends can be followed by emotional insecurity and loneliness when those intimate friends interact with other.
Jealousy engenders a variety of emotions: Fear of loss, suspicion of a perceived betrayal, low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss, uncertainty and loneliness, fear of losing an important person to another and distrust. Jealousy is prevalent in everyday activities and settings; communities, families, work, sports, friendships and romantic partner.
Sexual jealousy is triggered when a significant other displays sexual interest in another person “He is always flirting with other women.” It is one cause of domestic violence associated with either suspected infidelity or the partner planning to leave the relationship.
Sibling rivalry is a common form of family jealousy. It can affect all ages and different members of any family. This jealousy can arise from lack of attention from a specific member in the family, such as the mother or father. It can also occur through comparison to another member in the family, “People think she is prettier.”
Workers can experience jealousy of one another in practically any setting that one person feels like they are losing services from something or someone else, “The boss favors Angela and always gives her the easy assignments.”
Romantic jealousy can be experienced in long or short-term relationships. One partner can feel the emotion of jealousy arise if the other partner is paying more attention or spending more time with someone else. This does not have to be in a romantic way. One partner could be spending more time with a friend with no romantic implications, “He would rather be watching a football game with his friends than spending time with me.”
Platonic jealousy is seen in friendships. It is similar to romantic jealousy in there is the fear of being replaced, having competition or being compared to another. Unfortunately, the media continually suggests to women that they must constantly compete with each other (for silkier hair, longer eye lashes, more slender figures, better wardrobes). The psychological damage these injunctions cause in the relationships of the female social structure can be devastating. This may be one of the reasons why some women are disloyal to each other.
“When a woman buys into the social belief that her worth is attached to her physical appearance,” says Cassandra George Sturges, psychology instructor and advice columnist for Today’s Black Woman magazine, “she overlooks the true beauty that lies in the substance of her character.”
All negative aspects in life links to low self esteem. It is simply because a person with low self esteem has a deteriorated relationship with himself in the first place. It all goes down to the basics, building self esteem. People need to work on their inside as great results always come from the inside out. And when they do, the negativity all around them will never bother them anymore.
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